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Self-deceptability is therefore a tool of some value, especially when you can deceive yourself about your own motives??elieving your heart is in the right place regardless of where it really is. Self-deceptability frees you to do what you want to do and shields you from being identified as self-serving. It's not clear whether self-deceptability is a trait or the lack of one. The question is one of origins. Do we start with low self-deceptability and acquire it or do we start with high self-deceptability and never learn to control it? Both can happen but the latter is more likely. Starting with the former though nike air max 90 uk sale , picture someone with a pretty normal childhood. He becomes a responsible adult and then somehow falls into circumstances that compel him to do the wrong thing a lot. Maybe alcoholism, or a secure and affirming job that calls for lying, cheating or stealing. What to do about the wrong you did yesterday? We generally like to feel good about ourselves. 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